Dr. Art -- 22/07/2001 00:08:57
Ya know.. For surgeons its very easy.. cut this.. implant that... place a little of this under a wrinkle, plump up a lip.... easy. Patient responds, scars reduce over time... As Surgeons are apt to say... 'a chance to cut is a chance to heal' but what about the soul? The Heart? The satisfaction of the patient? Are they really any happier after the procedure? Many are ... some are not.
I suppose Psychiatry and Psychology are the evil step children of medicine. Perhaps? We deal with the left overs of what 'Cut and Repair' cannot touch. We deal with the soul. Pssssst.... Thats what Psyche means... Soul and Mind.
Making people 'whole', 'complete' and happy is not an easy task. Its not only the surgeons knife that does all this. Good personal relationships help and sometimes these can only be achieved through a good alliance with a caring therapist. It will bring self acceptance...self confidence.. and finally -- knowing who you are and what you want -- will show you what to do.
Aside from abusive partners, nagging spouses, disappointed mothers and fathers and yes.... even disappointed children... its all up to you.. NOT YOUR SURGEON, that counts. And we and the surgeons can sit here writing all this until the cows come home and it still doesn't matter.
What matters is .. how you feel about yourself. If surgical procedures can achieve this .. then MORE POWER TO THEM.. but what if they don't. or you feel you need more. Seeking out a life coach or psychotherapist/psychiatrist is as life enhancing as any procedure you are likely to pay for. And lasts forever when done right.
For those among you who thumb your noses at 'Professional Psychological Help' I leave you with a 1500 year old buddhist proverb... "When you know who you are, you will know what to do. I wish you all the best in your quest".
After 20 years of practice.. I believe this says it all...
To disconnect the mind and soul from the body in the hope of finding happiness leaves one hollow and unsatistied. Always seeking the next procedure that will make you whole and individually 'beautiful'.... You may not have to look that far.